Getting self confidence back

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Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure … and the lack of self-confidence that I needed to overcome that fear. The key question: how do you overcome that fear? By working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. I still have those fears, undoubtedly. But now I know that I can beat them, that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side.

This post was inspired by reader Nick from Finland, who asked for an article about self-worth and self-confidence:. Many of the things you propose make people feel better about themselves and actually help building self-confidence. However, I would be interested on reading your input in general on this topic. Truer words have never been spoken. As an aside, I know that some people make a strong distinction between self-esteem and self-confidence. In the end, both amount to the same thing, and in the end, the actions I mention below give a boost to both self-esteem and self-confidence.

Taking control of your self-confidence If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? Is your self-confidence in your control? While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence.

And if you believe that you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants despite the naysaying of others. You can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.

Below, I outline 25 things that will help you do that. None of them is revolutionary, none of them will do it all by themselves. If they work, try others. Groom yourself. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing. Dress nicely. Photoshop your self-image. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize.

We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it. Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts see next item with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened.

With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale , but my goodness this works. Kill negative thoughts. I want to stop and go watch TV. When I caught one, I would stomp on it mentally of course and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one.

Only one mile left! Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like.

Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. Be kind and generous. Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image.

You act in accordance with the Golden Rule , and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does wonders for your self-confidence, believe me. One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.

Get prepared. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? For myself, I try to live the Golden Rule and fail often. This is my key principle, and I try to live my life in accordance with it. Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you.

A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. It will make you feel more confident. Stand tall. I have horrible posture, so it will sound hypocritical for me to give this advice, but I know it works because I try it often. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself.

I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write for example , and the practice will increase your competence. Set a small goal and achieve it.

People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. Now set another small goal and achieve that. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. Focus on solutions.

Getting self confidence back

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10 tips for improving your self-esteem